One of the great things about being a celebrant is discovering new poems and readings about love. It's really special when a couple suggest a reading I don't know yet, or find the perfect wedding reading for them.
When a Mexican couple asked me to conduct their wedding, I dived into the fascinating world of Frida Kahlo. I knew that she was a gifted painter but did not realise she wrote poems too. The below poem blew my mind. It's down to earth yet romantic, vulnerable yet strong, and captures a whole world in small meaningful moments.
The bride did not like Frida Kahlo so it wasn't read at their wedding ceremony. For me, however it has been a cherished gem.
You deserve a lover ... by Frida Kahlo
You deserve a lover who wants you disheveled,
with everything and all the reasons that wake you up in a haste
and the demons that won’t let you sleep.
You deserve a lover who makes you feel safe,
who can consume this world whole if he walks hand in hand with you;
someone who believes that his embraces are a perfect match with your skin.
You deserve a lover who wants to dance with you,
who goes to paradise every time he looks into your eyes
and never gets tired of studying your expressions.
You deserve a lover who listens when you sing,
who supports you when you feel shame and respects your freedom;
who flies with you and isn’t afraid to fall.
You deserve a lover who takes away the lies
and brings you hope, coffee, and poetry.
How to choose the wedding reading that's right for you
An obvious start is to browse the internet, which will definitely result in some wonderful readings. However, if the results not really resonate with you, consider the following options:
Do you have a reading that is meaningful to you as a couple? A wedding reading does not have to be a 'wedding' reading!
Ask a friend or family member to choose a reading (or, if they are creative, write one for the occasion). If you're brave you can even ask them to leave it as a surprise until the day.
Song lyrics can also be read out - let your favourite song shine on your day!
Looking for more inspiration? Check out this blog featuring a poem by Tyler Kent White.